Titus 2:3-5

The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; that they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.

Tuesday, August 4, 2009

Post Op Appointment!!!!!

I had my post-op appointment today for the D&C two weeks ago. I don't know if I am more disappointed or angry. My darling husband had to take most of the afternoon off work to take me to the doctor's office. (I'm still on a learner's permit for driving and we only have one vehicle anyway, and he works a 40 min drive from where we live.)

The whole thing was a total waste of time. I got to the office and as I check in I am informed that the doctor has gone home to stay off her feet as she is pregnant and I will be seen by the nurse practitioner instead. The receptionist also processes a co-pay as she doesn't realise it is a post-op appointment. DH leaves me in the waiting room so he can go and vote in the State Senate Election that is going on today. After about 10 minutes I'm taken to a consultation room. When the NP comes in she obviously hasn't even read my file yet. She asks me how I'm doing and then proceeds to give me a lecture about not getting pregnant again straight away. She also notices that there is no pap smear results on my file (the file is 2 weeks old!) and asks me when my last one was. I inform her I've never had one and that the miscarriage was my first contact with a doctor since arriving in America. She tells me I need a Well Woman Check where they will order a mammogram, pap smear and check my cervix to make sure it is recovering correctly and it should be done in four weeks time. She then takes me back to reception to make another appointment for four weeks time. The receptionist then asks her what they are billing this visit as. Another nurse overhears and informs them both that this is a post-op appointment. The receptionist then realises that there should not have been a co-pay for this and has to refund the money.

I was under the impression that the post-op appointment was important because that was when they would check to make sure everything was returning to normal. I never even got my blood pressure taken, never mind a physical exam or hormone levels checked, nor did she do anything to check that there was no undetected infection. I asked if I should be concerned about anything and all I was told was don't get pregnant again until after we have checked everything at the next appointment. I was in total shock as I left that nothing was actually done at this appointment, other than to make another appointment. I won't be going, and I certainly won't be asking my husband to take anymore time off work to take me anywhere near that doctor's office again.

Now I am over the shock and beginning to feel angry. Everything I know about what has happened to me over these last few weeks I have found out by doing my own research. I have never had anything explained or told what to expect next. As I have been thinking about this tonight I realise I shouldn't be surprised. The doctor didn't even speak to me in recovery. She spoke to my husband immediately after the procedure, but she never came and spoke to me in the few hours I was still in the hospital recovering.

Well my rant is over. Hopefully I can get some sleep now. I do know I will be staying as far away from doctors as I possibly can for as long as I can. The health service doesn't seem to be about medical care, just about making money.


  1. Your last paragraph pretty much sums it up. The almighty dollar rules, *you* are nothing but a cog in the works. :-( Good idea to stay as far away from them as possible!


  2. I am sitting here shaking my head in total disgust! I could go on all day about how wrong that NP was! After some less than positive experences with doctors I have learned that it is a good idea to go "doctor shopping" when you are well. It may take several visits to different doctors before you find one that your comfortable but having a good primary doctor you trust can make the difference when illness strikes. Start by asking friends, ladies from your church or even your midwife to recomend a doctor. Often at the end of the first office visit the doctor will want to send you to have some blood drawn to screen for any issues that may be silently lurking. At this time if your not happy with the way you have been treated by the doctor or office staff simply infom the doctor that the blood work will not be necessary since you have no intention of using their services in the future! I think modern medicine is a wonderful thing when used properly. Doctors spend good time and money learning their trade but that does not give them the knowledge or right to dictate your course of care.

  3. Oh my GOSH!!!
    I would be sooo ticked off. I would not be going back. We've been blessed beyond belief to have had a wonderful hospital and exceptional doctors - they are out there, but unfortunately, so are doctors like that one. Grrrr!
    Ask for recommendations from women who've had multiple pregnancies, especially.
    Time for doctor shopping!


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